When we try to understand someone, we just have to be very blank and neutral, so our perception about them, or their portrayal about self isn’t harm in anyway. It a real task, though for many, and it comes easy, natural for some, or they have mastered the skill, maybe.
Okay, so I will tell you a story about a person. She narrated me this. It was the time she says God answered her, so she says; “when I was on a check up visit to a hospital with my mom, and there was a lot of waiting for our number. Everyone was sitting, waiting for their turns and I was just observing people around. There were few things running in my mind constantly. I somehow summoned up the courage and asked my mom my doubts. Again, it was a whole lot about life and support, as I was having a hard time expressing my love to someone who cared for me a lot, I was super doubtful about myself. I needed guidance, in the light of facts and hands on experience about life. Suddenly our eyes fell on two little girls. They were so cute, and adorable. It reminded me of the time when I was small and how me and my sister used to be a support system and indeed best friend for each other. Then I asked my mom, how do you feel, you also were in that place once, where you had two little muffins like them, were we also this naughty and sincere like them or anything weird we used to do?; and Like how does a parent generally let their child go out of their sight and send them away for studies, or for anything of that sort, won’t it be super hard and fearful?
My mom then explained me, it’s the love that is the weakness, but it’s the strength also, here both the points are one only. You have to be on the latter side, always, no matter what. And You have to choose your child’s growth over your expectations, love and comfort, always, suppose if you don’t let them be free, how are they going to learn to be themselves, learn various skills and grow into a beautiful being. These things overtake mostly everything that comes under the weaker side, so all this kind of love becomes natural, it’s not dominating, commanding or demanding. A parent nurtures his child with all the positives and make him understand things in a way he understands. Teach him the goods, bads, right, wrong. It’s a feeling which may not be explained, but that feeling binds a parent and a child. And then she was like, anyways you will understand it someday, but yes you both were exactly like them, same cuteness, naughtiness. Those little girls, were looking at us with their round little eyes and warm smiles. Suddenly, our discussion was interrupted by the reception lady, she called us for our turn. We met doctor and the examination was done. We came out of doctor’s cabin and were sitting for few reports. I was again lost in the thoughts about what I had asked my mom earlier. All of sudden, the younger one of those little girls came to me, she asked me my name, I replied and asked her name back. She answered and ran away. Mumma and me were looking at them both, they both were chit-chatting something in each other’s ear. Then again, she came, she and her actions were soo cute, really. She stood near me and said, ‘You are so beautiful’, in her cute voice, and the smile, with those little teeth, faded all my stress or thoughts into air. Then they, both went back to their parents and were again playing. Their turn was over, and as they were leaving, she came to me running, and she said, ‘I love you, Bye : ) ’, the smile melted me, like anything.
We got our reports, as we were leaving, mom said to me, as far as your question was concerned, just be like her. Even if hesitant but, pure and open. And never doubt the love which came your way, from you or to you, it was meant to be at that specific time maybe, and you deserve all the love you get, you saw, she loves you : ) ”
Thank you for reading!
@Beingheard 